At work a co-worker and I disagreed how the classroom should be set up, I felt it should be set up a certain way and she had a total different idea. Because we do share a class we sat down and let each other know why we felt it should be set up our way, then we divided the room up and I set up my areas my way and she did the same. We decided we'll keep our room this way and 1 week after school starts we'll meet again and if need be we'll rearrange our room.
When coming to our conclusion we did use 3 of the 3 R's to resolve our disagreement, we both were respectful, responsive, and reciprocal. Because we used the 3 R's we were able to quickly come to a compromise.
Do you think there are any ways we could have been more productive with our conversation?
My assistant and I have had the same disagreements many times. We just have to sit down and talk and work our a compromise. We try it one way for awhile and if it isn't working then we will try it the other way. It is all about compromise.
ReplyDeleteTinka,
ReplyDeleteI think you did this well. You both compromised and shared your feelings on why you wanted certain areas to be set up a certain way. You also requested what you wanted instead of demanding it. Then you both will observe (hopefully without any feelings as to who is right/wrong) a week later to see what is working well in those areas and what might need to change. Great example!
Victoria Leming
Hello Tinka,
ReplyDeleteYour story is a great example of a peaceful conflict resolution using the 3 R’s or respect, responsiveness, and reciprocity (Cheshire, 2007). In addition to using the 3 R’s to solve the issue, you also use nonviolent skills namely listen to one another’s needs and empathy (CNVC, 2013). Also, finding a solution that suited both your needs indicates that the conflict management was conducted to perfection. Thank you for this successful example of conflict management!
References
Cheshire, N. (2007). The 3 R’s: Gateway to Infant and Toddler Learning. Dimensions of Early Childhood, Vol. 35, Number 3 p. 38.
CNVC. (2013). Training. foundations of NVC. Retrieved from: http://www.cnvc.org/learn/nvc-foundations
Hi Tinka,
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed your example and the use of the 3 R's. These types of compromise happen a lot in schools with little space. I liked how you both discussed the situation and came to an agreement. So smart to get together at a later time to reassess your needs. Teamwork is essential when working as an educator.
Thanks for sharing! Cindy
Tinka,
ReplyDeleteI think you did your best to meet each other's needs. I am sharing my room this year as well and I am unsure how things will start and end. I know that I can use the three R's such as you did to help with resolving any conflicts we may encounter.